For as long as I can remember, it’s felt like something was missing from my life. Something that would make me truly happy. I’ve definitely had a lot of happy moments, but I’ve always wanted something more, something better. A better job, more money, a nicer car, to be fitter and leaner, there’s always been something else. If I was just a little bit fitter, that would make me happy or if I only earned a little more money, surely that would make me happy right.
The thing is though, when I got that little bit fitter or earned a little more money, it wasn’t enough. It would quickly turn into the next thing on the horizon, maybe just a little more fitter or a nice new car, that’s got to make me happy. By pursuing happiness and constantly looking at what’s next, I was never truly happy. I was missing out on life and never taking the time to appreciate what was happening right in front of me.
I don’t think wanting to be better is necessarily a bad thing, personal growth is one of my top 5 values, but I’ve stopped depending on external things to make me happy. In fact I’ve stopped trying to find happiness altogether. Instead, I just try to enjoy the moment, spend time with the people I love being with and do the things I enjoy doing. It doesn’t always work, I’m still learning and life isn’t always fun, but I’ve realized that letting go of trying to be happy will actually make you happier.
“I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.” – Jim Carrey